The strategy is to have a practice, and what it means to have a practice is to regularly and reliably do the work in a habitual way.
The notion that I do my work here, now, like this, even when I do not feel like it, and especially when I do not feel like it, is very important. Because lots and lots of people are creative when they feel like it, but you are only going to become a professional if you do it when you don’t feel like it. And that emotional waiver is why this is your work and not your hobby.
Someone today was asking me about my positive outlook.
This person actually knows me and was sober.
But this person is convinced I am happy and that I have my “shit figured out.”
This person was ultimately talking about relationships, which in my medium-length life I have discovered makes up about 97% of the perceived happiness of 98% of the population.
My response applies to that, but I also believe it applies to all things.
Try to hold on to nothing.
Ours is a universe of gravity and orbits. Things come around and they stay around when they are meant to and don’t when they are not.
Your own gravity will hold what it can and what it should. Big things pull more things than small things. If you want to take this literally, become morbidly obese and live in space. If you want to take it how I mean it, be as big as you want. As loving, as angry, as funny, as hollow, as fulfilled, as broken, as optimistic, and as lost as makes you comfortable and feels like your own clothes and not something borrowed.
The people and things that are drawn to that will stay drawn to it until they don’t. That isn’t your concern.
Don’t cling. Don’t hold. Just be.
They’ll come and go. But while they are in orbit, it will be right. It will be good. It will be physics and love and everything in between.
Enjoy that. But don’t try to keep it. That’s just not how this place works.
Then stop thinking about how you don’t get to hold on to people, and start thinking about how – because of that gravity – you don’t need to.
But I try to keep in mind that I am also a person whose only way of interacting with others is shouting “:/ IS THERE ANYTHING I CAN DO TO HELP??” and then waking briskly away in embarrassment before getting an answer and sometimes I can’t even do THAT right.
I love how potato in French is pomme de terre, which pretty much means “earth apple.”
like what stupid frenchman saw this:
and said “zis petite légume looks like a, how you say, APPLE! hmmm… but it grows in ze earth… HON HON HON! MAIS OUI! C’EST UNE POMME DE TERRE!”
j’adore comment ananas se dit pineapple en anglais, ce qui veut littéralement dire “pomme de pin”, genre quel type anglais a vu ça:
et s’est dit : “ow cette étrange big fruit ressemble à une, how do you say, POMME! hmmm… mais plutôt une pomme qui pousse dans les pins… HU HU HU! OH YES, IT’S A PINEAPPLE!”
(z’avez vu, on peut le faire aussi… hon hon hon!)
No regrets except crumbs. jesus motherfucking gonzales bustamante desantos all these crumbs.
I have no regrets